Everyone has a dream. Whether you want to be the CEO of a Fortune 500 company, a professional athlete, a parent, or a good student everyone has something they are striving for. But why do so many fall short of their goals and dreams? Are they lazy? Are they not smart enough?
You could say “it depends” but quite frankly, there are common reasons people quit. Here are some commonalities on why people give up on their dreams.
A Lot of People Can’t Handle Failure
Sometimes, by losing the battle you find a new way to win the war.
– Donald Trump
Now bare with me because I know a lot of folks right now don’t like the President and this is not an endorsement, but I think this quote is on to something. I like to think of life as a war because it’s true! Daily battles come up and you must have the perseverance to get through.
Failing is not always bad. The most valuable lessons I learned were not when I won but rather when I fell flat on my face. It can feel overwhelming at times, but keep in mind, you are building a future worth fighting for so FIGHT.
People Told Them No
The amount of people that are about to tell you “No, you can’t do that” or “No, you are too young to do that” or “No, you have never worked in that industry, how can you possibly pull this off” are about to get out of control. You, as the CEO of your life, can choose who you surround yourself with.
If you want people that are going to hold you back because they are projecting their own fears on you, then please keep them around and you can all be losers together. If you want to win, you are going to have to change who you surround yourself with. The old adage of “You are who you hangout with” is very true. You will be held back by these types of thinkers.
They Stopped Believing
Belief is a powerful thing. Every successful politician or business person I have met has one characteristic in common, they believe in themselves. They believe in themselves so much that they almost have short term memory loss when things go bad. Athletes in particular, are very good at this because they must move onto the next play or strategy. You have to be able to do this in your business or life. The ability to move on quickly after a failure is the difference between winning the war or losing the war.
Ask yourself, “Why did I have this dream in the first place?”
Remember who you are and why you’re doing this. Leanna and I are really good at this part. When I was little, Glen Albaugh, very famous sports psychologist in Stockton, told me how important it was to celebrate wins. No matter how big or small, if you are not celebrating these wins, you are constantly in a state of stress and work.
When I buy a house and wholesale it or flip it, Leanna and I take a moment to celebrate the small wins. It also allows us to remember where we came from. I’m not kidding when I say we had $87 in our account for two months wondering how in the world we were going to pay people back.
Broke is the most powerful motivator in my life. We have been broke and we will never be broke again. Anyway, back to why people quit on their dreams:
They Are Stuck on Process Rather than Action
Yes, you need to write a plan whether you are starting a business or trying to lose weight, you need a plan. BUT, there is such a thing as over planning and being stuck in the process.
I have never had this problem because I take a very black and white approach to everything,”It’s either going to work or it’s not.” I know that sounds silly and almost childish but it’s the truth. Your idea is either going to make you money or it’s not and you will never know until you try.
Simplifying your process is the best way to reach your goals. The more complex it is, the more likely it is you will never accomplish it. Do what I do once you have a plan, dive in head first and see what happens. Commit 100% to your plan and I promise it will work out.
Please, don’t give up on your dreams. Life is too short to sit back and wonder “what if.” I refuse to live my life 9-5 and I refuse to give up on my dreams. What about you?